10 Lessons We Often Forget
1. Life is short
We are amazed at how fast time passes. How often do you hear, “It’s already September?” We misjudge how long everything takes and how fast it goes and need to remind ourselves on daily that today is all we get. Death is scary, but what is scarier than death is a life that has passed and we’ve forgotten to live, always waiting until tomorrow to do what we wanted to do today.
2. No one gives you the life you want but you
We rely on others to tell us what to do. We listen to our parents to guide us, our friends, or our spouse. The truth is that no one knows what’s best for us, but us. Beware of people telling you not to do things just because they are afraid to do them themselves. If your heart tells you to take a leap, take the leap or you’ll never know what could have been.
3. The busiest is not always the winner
In today’s culture, it seems like we are in a war of who can be busiest, but busyness does not equal productivity. Being busy is just a distraction from the fact that our days are slipping away from us. Everyone needs time to relax and recenter themselves. In fact, those who take time to recharge are more productive in the long run.
4. Making mistakes means making progress
Success never happens without mistakes first, especially success at something worthwhile. If you are not making mistakes, you’re not challenging yourself. The only difference between a master and a novice is hours of practice and number of tries. Don’t be so afraid of failure that you don’t try. Then you’ll never know what you are capable of.
5. Saying is not doing
It’s easy to say you want to do or be something and never do it. People wait to do things for all kinds of reasons – they wait until they feel ready, they wait for a sign that it’s time, or they wait until they are not afraid. The truth is that no one ever feels ready, is not afraid, or sees a neon sign. If you’re waiting for a sign, you already know what it is you want to do, and that’s half the battle.
6. You may never get the apology you need
It’s too easy to hold a grudge and withhold forgiveness, but when we do, we are hurting ourselves more than the one we are holding a grudge against. Many of the apologies we deserve and feel like we can’t move on without never come. You don’t have to absolve someone of guilt in order to let go of your anger and forgive.
7. Not everyone is good for you
You may like or love someone who is not good for you. Maybe they do not make you feel good about yourself, are bad influences, or just bring you down. They can be good people and still not be good for you. Some people are just not compatible with others. It’s not worth it to force connections with people that don’t enhance your life, your wellbeing, and your self esteem at least 90% of the time.
8. Be nice to yourself
Treat yourself like you would treat your best friend. When your best friend fails at something, we try to bring them up, not beat them down more. When we fail at something, our tendency is to beat ourselves up about it, but that just makes it harder the next time. We have to love ourselves and be nice to ourselves before we can expect others to love us and be nice to us.
9. Things do not make you happy
Having material things only goes so far in the realm of happiness. Having necessities and comforts is nice, but after that, things do not really add that much to your happiness. Most of the things we want – televisions, electronics, entertainment systems – don’t enrich our lives at all and we’re not any happier after spending time with them. The people who are the best at acquiring things are often the most empty in other areas of their lives.
10. Change is the only certainty
We spend our lives hiding and running from change, but whether we like it or not, change happens. In fact, our lives are changing every day in imperceptible ways and before we know it, everything is different. We hold on to “people, places, and jobs for dear life.” Often what makes people or things so valuable is that we know they are not forever. We can appreciate what they give to us, and let them go when it’s time.